Today’s blog post is going to be a short one, mostly an update of sorts, about a dating app I have recently found thanks to everyone’s favorite educational platform, TikTok.
Now, quite a while ago I tried some dating apps that were deemed “asexual friendly” and we learned that those words really didn’t mean anything. I’ve honestly had the best luck on the dating app Hinge, but it still rots my brain and I have it deleted from my phone hopefully to never return.
The main point of me testing out all those other dating apps was one, for content, and two, to see if their claims were right. When I found these claims were kinda wrong, and hardly found other aces, and didn’t have much success in the match department in general, I said I needed a dating app just for asexuals.
Well it turns out that there is such a thing!
There’s a dating app called “ACEapp The Social Network” which is a social network platform solely dedicated for people on the asexual spectrum.
So, of course, for science (and the possibility of finding my future wife) I downloaded it.
First of all, you can tell this app was made for aces because the logo is a slice of cake the colors of the asexual flag. Plus, it’s an app that gives you the option for romantic or platonic relationships, which is very ace coded.
The process went a little like this. I downloaded the app. I made an account. I uploaded a picture, gave my age, and filled out a few get-to-know-you questions that said I was looking for a romantic relationship, didn’t smoke, was an introvert, etc. The most exciting part of this app were the sexuality options which all involved romantic orientation labels such as grayromantic, panromantic, demiromantic, confused, lithoromantic, and many more. There weren’t even options to choose something like lesbian or gay, because it was assumed you were ace! I chose homoromantic which I’ve never seen as an option on any other dating app.
There are a few issues. First of all, this app, according to the app store, is over 17 years old. So the user friendliness of it isn’t the best. It’s definitely doable, but it’s not as convenient and user friendly as other dating apps. You can only choose one picture for your profile, and there aren’t prompts to fill out. You can only fill out a short bio about yourself which was daunting. What info should I choose to say about myself to meet the love of my life?!
Unfortunately for me, when I narrowed my results down to people in my age range looking for a romantic relationship 100 miles or less from me, absolutely no one showed up…
Considering the ace population is small, and I, a chronically online asexual, only found out about this app last week, means that the issue is that aces simply don’t know about this app, making the friend, and certainly the romance pool, incredibly small.
This app does seem better for getting to know other ace people as friends. There was a cool feature where you could see ace people all around the world, which is a nice comfort.
Overall it was a fun time but I deleted it after about twenty minutes. There’s just something about scrolling over people’s pictures and judging them as suitors that makes my brain hurt.
Anyway. This was an exciting discovery. Hopefully someone rich will buy this app and revamp it so it’s even better and cooler, and every ace person will download it and I’ll meet the love of my life.
Average Asexual 