Answering The Web’s Most Searched Questions About Asexuality

I thought it would be fun to do a little Q&A on the blog, except I had one problem. I have no one to ask me lots of questions. And, I figured if I just Googled “questions people have about asexuality” I would get a bunch of boring repetitive questions I didn’t want to answer. So, I decided to copy the Genius YouTube channel and pretend I was a super famous celebrity and answer the web’s most searched questions about asexuality. In order to do this all I did was put in prompts to a question into Google and choose some of the suggested responses that came up. So…here we go. 

The first prompt: why do asexuals…

  1. Why do asexuals like cake?

One day on the internet years ago a random ace on AVEN said that asexuals like cake more than sex. And they were right. A lot of asexuals (not all) would most definitely prefer to eat cake than have sex. This became a meme of sorts, and people ran with it, and it became a joke, or a stereotype of sorts that aces love cake. It’s true. I love cake. 

  1. Why do asexuals wear black rings?

A black ring on the middle finger of your right hand is a symbol of asexuality. From what I’ve found on the web, this started on an AVEN quorum in 2005, where someone asked what a way to suggest asexuality through clothing was, and thus ace rings were born. 

(I found the original discussion here). 

  1. Why do asexuals like garlic bread? 

Same with the cake thing. Aces would rather eat garlic bread than have sex. I believe this is for the aces that don’t like cake. They can have bread instead!

  1. Why do asexuals hate Denmark? 

We don’t hate Denmark. Because asexuality is such a small community, lots of aces go online (as I have) to meet other aces and find validation. Similar to the garlic bread/cake thing, this started as a meme. Someone made a meme stating that since approximately 1% (it’s actually more) of the population is ace, that means there are more ace people than the amount of people who live in Denmark…so if we invaded them for some reason it’s likely that we could win. Other aces might tell you that Denmark is full of bread and cake. This might be true, but I’ve never been to Denmark so I can’t fact check that. 

The second prompt: can asexuals…

  1. Can asexuals have crushes?

Yes. 

I don’t know if this is a me thing, or an ace thing, or a combination of both, but when I have a crush on someone it usually lasts for an embarrassing amount of time. I have never been one of those people to have a new crush every week. I can count the people I’ve liked on one hand. So yes, aces definitely have crushes, just without the sexual attraction bit. 

  1. Can asexuality be fixed?

NO. Asexuality is a sexual orientation, and it cannot be fixed with conversion therapy. Additionally, asexuality, unlike other sexual orientations, is often medicalized, because people think we can be fixed because there is something wrong with our brain that makes us not want sex. Asexuality is not a disease, or an illness, or something that can be cured. It is simply how people are!

  1. Can asexuals kiss?

Yes. Some asexuals like kissing, some don’t. I fall in that weird in between category where I wouldn’t be comfortable kissing someone on the lips (*sigh* I really wish I did) but I feel comfortable kissing my hypothetical significant other on the cheek or forehead, or possibly other body parts (arm, hand, etc). 

The third prompt: what do asexuals…

  1. What do asexuals wear? 

I would assume the answer to this would be black rings. But my answer would be super hot and sexy outfits usually in the color scheme of the ace flag. 

The fourth prompt: does asexuality…

  1. Does asexuality exist in humans?

Yes. Duh. 

  1. Does asexuality run in families?

No. Just like any other sexuality or gender identity, queerness is not genetic. It’s just how people are. 

  1. Does asexuality come from trauma?

Sometimes, it is possible that someone can identify as asexual due to some sort of trauma that has caused them to no longer want sexual interaction or experience sexual attraction. However, this is usually not the case, and it is unfortunately a pretty common assumption that asexuality is something wrong with you, or caused by something, when in reality it is just the way some people are. 

Oh the internet. How silly you are. If you took anything away from this post I hope it was that asexuality is just how people are, and it is not caused by something. Also, asexuals are hot and sexy and slay. 

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